James Lasdun

December 20, 2012

Give Me Everything You Have: On Being Stalked

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Published in February 201

“smart, rigorous and beautifully written” Scott Bradfield, The New York Times

“James Lasdun’s extraordinary tale of erotic obsession is so gripping that I read the first 70 pages in one ­buttock-clenching rush — there is no greater narcotic than insanity combined with lust…” Camilla Long, The Sunday Times (UK)

“simultaneously a memoir, a thriller, a spiritual quest and a self-help book…Out of the sensational material of being stalked, [Lasdun] has created an elaborate tale of psychological warfare and survival, a gripping testament to the axiom that despite its risks in the twenty-first century, writing well is still the best revenge.” Elaine Showalter, The Times Literary Supplement

“What imbues “Give Me Everything You Have” with its considerable humanity is Lasdun’s thoughtful exploration of the broader subjects of reputation, temptation, virtue, honor and ego” – Annie Groer, Washington Post

“Here is a chilling account of what it is to experience ‘verbal terrorism’ in the age of email and the Internet—a riveting memoir of James Lasdun’s nightmare experience of having been stalked for five years by a former student. This must be the most informative, the most insightful, and the most beautifully written of any account from the victim’s perspective of what has come to be called ‘cyberbullying.’” —Joyce Carol Oates

“The book is, among other things, a fascinating meditation on the malleability of identity in the online age, on the ease with which the truth about individual lives can be publicly distorted… As intriguing as this material is in itself, it’s Lasdun’s deviations from it that make for such an odd and original work of nonfiction. There are long, idiosyncratic digressions in which he views his situation through various literary lenses – readings of Tintin, Sir Gawain and the Green Knight, Macbeth and the poetry of Plath… And there’s a long interlude where the book detours into a travel narrative in which a trip to Jerusalem becomes an occasion for historical meditations on antisemitism. What is finally most riveting about this strange and unsettling book is not the grim fascination of Lasdun’s situation; it’s the moral intelligence and intensity with which he examines it.” -Mark O’Connell, The Observer

“fascinating and eminently readable…The book is also an astute meditation on anti-Semitism, online harassment, the nature of obsession and the power of the written word…His measured narrative has the suspense of a psychological thriller” - The Economist

“Perversely lovely” – Laura Kipnis, Bookforum

“grimly fascinating and stunningly well-written…a brilliant meditation on some of the thorniest issues of contemporary society” -Emma Garman, The Daily Beast

“…an extraordinarily odd and disturbing story. Like Nasreen, Lasdun is a “real writer”, “someone for whom words are a source of primal delight”. The poet in him is skilled at following tiny snags of thought into marvellous, rich mini-essays: on Gawain, DH Lawrence, Patricia Highsmith’s Strangers on a Train. Himself the author of brainy, sophisticated noirs (Seven Lies, Besieged), he’s brilliant at using folk and modern narrative forms to enliven each other.” -Jenny Turner, The Guardian

“one of those books that made me grateful for subway delays, so much did I want the excuse to keep reading it. It begins as an account of Lasdun’s alarming experience of being stalked by a onetime student—a premise for a book that no writer would envy—and ends up a rigorous and moving and very elegantly wrought examination of obsession, relentlessness, power, envy, and ambition.” – Rebecca Mead, Page-Turner, The New Yorker

“It is this willingness to appropriate his worst experience that shows Lasdun’s true courage as a writer and that enables him to turn his book into something more than just another memoir…” Adam Kirsch, The New Stateman

“brilliant” William Leith, The Spectator

Give Me Everything You Have is a reminder, as if any were needed, of how easily, since the arrival of the Internet, our peace can be troubled and our good name besmirched.” —J. M. Coetzee

“What Amy Chua’s Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother was to parenting a couple of years ago, Lasdun’s Give Me Everything You Have may well be to teaching: a controversial personal reflection on the professor-student relationship…. a fierce and compelling memoir” -Maureen Corrigan, Fresh Air

“No book I’ve read has ever covered the subject in more emotional depth and with deeper intellectual analysis… Lasdun’s book is a work of semi-autobiography, but it grips like a fine thriller” – Peter James, The Globe and Mail (Toronto)

“a chilling excursion into memoir from a novelist who has never been afraid to stare down darkness.” - The Guardian (Summer Books)

“A taut thriller…Lasdun’s vivid observations are disconcertingly insightful” - Mike Doherty, Maclean’s

“This subtle, compassionate take on the subject is rife with insights into the current cyberculture’s cult of anonymity, as well as the power, failure, and magic of writing” Publishers Weekly, Starred Review

“Lasdun has always been a suspenseful writer, keenly aware of the boundary between obsession and madness. His 2002 novel, “The Horned Man,” portrays the grip of paranoia which overcomes a university professor who believes he is being framed for a series of sex crimes. “How had I managed to lay myself open to an act of such preposterously elaborate vindictiveness,” the hero wonders. Here Lasdun asks himself the same question. Walking the reader through the early days of their friendship, he rarely chronicles an escalation without also interrogating his own response to it. Why did he not cease their exchange once it started becoming more personal? Of all students why did he decide to help this one? These prismatic waves of self-questioning do not just make for a psychologically rich narrative. They also aptly recreate the vortex of doubt into which stalking — particularly cyberstalking — plunges its victim.” -John Freeman, The Boston Globe

“an enthralling and thoughtful book” -Laura Miller, Salon

Give Me Everything You Have is a riveting, searingly honest meditation on desire, the writing life, and a consciousness held prisoner by a force beyond its reach or control. James Lasdun has taken a dark event from his life and placed it powerfully in the wider realm of literature and myth.” —Michael Greenberg, author of Hurry Down Sunshine

“James Lasdun’s Give Me Everything You Have is a classic of true crime. It is an account of a long and terrifying ordeal in which the author has, for years, been stalked, threatened and defamed by an obsessed woman, an ex-student of his. I had selected GMEYH from the tall stack of books next to my bed for a nightcap read but was up until dawn with it. The author recounts the details of this spectacular persecution with wisdom, moments of humor, and grace.” —Norman Rush

“James Lasdun’s Give Me Everything You Have is an autobiographical work, rare, beautiful, bitter, and profoundly accepting of his own experience: a former female student stalks him viciously for years. The story Lasdun tells is applicable to all human experience.” —Paula Fox

Give Me Everything You Have is a stunning fusion of memoir, travelogue, and compelling literary self-analysis. With the intuitive and psychological panache of Saul Bellow and the mythic intelligence and sweep of Robert Graves, James Lasdun explores the personal and historic qualities of terror and victimhood. The inquisition on anti-Semitism in all its inglorious aspects is both alarming and profound. It’s an original, honest, and courageous book.” —Philip Schultz, Pulitzer Prize–winning author of Failure

“This is one of those books that had to be written—for personal reasons on the part of the author, as well as for larger cultural reasons on behalf of the rest of us. James Lasdun’s sensitivity to nuance and threat, his commitment to the value of the written word, his awareness of life’s ironies, have all been brought to bear on this brilliantly told, painfully gripping story that is at once highly literary and completely true. Its ancestors are Nikolai Gogol and Edgar Allan Poe; its historical moment is precisely now.” —Wendy Lesser, editor of The Threepenny Review

Give Me Everything You Have is an enthralling, complicated book. What begins as a noir thriller of electronic stalking becomes a deep meditation on the ways in which an unwelcome, irrational attraction changes the life of the person who is desired—permanently.” —Ellen Ullman, author of By Blood

“To write about an almost unknown assailant, for whose virtuoso malevolence there appears to be no rational explanation, is to attempt to describe something as formless as malevolence itself. Lasdun accomplishes the task with his habitual luminous elegance, drawing into his account wider questions of honour, reputation, masculinity, creativity, the nature of evil and the experience of being “an unbelieving, not even entirely kosher Jew [who] finds himself subjected to a firestorm of unrelenting anti-Semitism”.” -Jane Shilling, The Daily Telegraph

“Give Me Everything You Have is a powerful treatise on the power of the internet as a tool for harm… Lasdun’s exquisite prose has a judicial precision and a chilly candour… He relaxes in the last third of the book, an account of a trip to Jerusalem.. The trip, which had seemed to offer some respite from Nasreen’s harassment, also offers a haunting depiction of the kind of bleary-eyed stress that makes one “attach great importance to any circumstance that resonates with your own”… Throughout the book, such resonances provide a vivid portrait of a rather brilliant poet’s mind as it links all it encounters back to its tormentor” Emily Stokes, The Financial Times

“[a]discomfiting, often brilliant book.” Ian Thomson, The Independent (UK)

“The adroit narrative… is as complex as insanity itself, as addictive as the obsession it describes…cool, smooth, and exquisite…” Melissa H. Pierson, barnesandnoblereview.com

“a spellbinding account… Turning from the tyranny-fostering abyss of the Internet, [Lasdun] creates a vista of story, independent of a computer screen, and wide enough to contain the fire of the darkest angel.” Robert Burke Warren, Chronogram Magazine

“a superb book” Richard Grant, Telegraph Magazine (UK)

“deftly evokes the chill power of cyberstalking” Edward Kosner, Wall Street Journal

“spellbinding” Tina Jordan, Entertainment Weekly

“a visceral, deeply unsettling autobiographical study of stalking in the technological age, at once all-too-real and a masterwork of suspense” – The Quietus

“James Lasdun’s new book is an elegant meditation on insecurity and paranoia” Gerald Jacobs, The Sunday Telegraph (UK)

“…however frantic Lasdun was, the writer part of him was fascinated, and realised what a good story this was. It’s this ambivalence that gives the book its depth and its intriguing sense of moral cross-currents…terrifically good on what it’s like to feel you have lost control of your own life.” John Preston, The Daily Mail

the passages that conclude this elegant book are striking in their generosity. In them Lasdun, who describes himself as altogether secular, identifies Nasreen’s gaping and unstoppable need to engage with a transhistorical religious and artistic impulse. I won’t reproduce the sentences here; they are too beautiful to take out of context. Suffice it to say that even though Nasreen is emotionally ill, Lasdun recognizes that she has merely amplified and acted out an agony that stirs in the bowels of every one of us. We want love. We want affirmation. We want the universe to notice us and answer our heartfelt pleas. And the universe is almost always silent, as Lasdun has finally learned to be silent toward his pleading, love- and hate-sick former student.” - Pamela Erens, Los Angeles Review of Books

Read an interview between the author and Porochista Khakpour, harassed by the same stalker:

http://www.guernicamag.com/interviews/waiting-for-nasreen/

Listen to a Granta podcast:“The writer and critic James Lasdun is the author of several collections of stories, including It’s Beginning to Hurt, two novels, including The Horned Man, three and soon to be four poetry collections, including Landscape with Chainsaw, and most recently a memoir about being stalked by a former writing student, Give Me Everything You Have. In this new book Lasdun explores how his nurturing relationship of a particularly talented student, Nasreen – which he openly states bordered on flirtation at times – unexpectedly turned into obsessive campaign of abuse and anti-Semitism. Here he speaks to online editor Ted Hodgkinson about how culpable he feels in this unresolved situation, the story about D. H. Lawrence denying a seductress that gives him hope and why finding a close reader can sometimes be a curse.”

http://www.granta.com/New-Writing/James-Lasdun-The-Granta-Podcast-Ep.-56

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